Posted by: commapen | June 28, 2009

About my life today

I have spent most of my working life in the federal government, with about 18 years working for the Social Security Administration. I am now doing customer service work with another government agency as a customer service representative. My “superpowers” are procrastination and daydreaming; I would like to change my mindset to be a man of action. I would like to find my niche in this world, be an inspiration to others, and be a positive force for change in this world. I also wouldn’t mind if a million dollars would drop into my lap 😉

In January of 2010 Dassy and I plan on returning to the Philippines for a visit of 3 to 4 weeks. Hopefully my parents will also be able to come to meet Dassy’s parents, that would mean a lot.

Posted by: commapen | December 26, 2008

Steve & Dassy Cavcey – Wedding Ceremony

Dassy and I were wed on July 7th, 2007 at the King County Courthouse in Burien, WA.  The best day of my life so far.

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Posted by: commapen | December 7, 2008

My school years

The trick about writing a personal blog is that is should contain information about the small moments of your life, as well as the big ones. People have much more small moments than big moments, and sometimes looking at those small moments can reflect on how those big moments took place. Here is some background on who I am.

My name is Steve Cavcey, I am “thirty-twelve” years old, and I live in Auburn, WA with my wife Dassy (27 years old). I was born in Seattle, WA in 1966 and spent the first 12 years of my life in West Seattle. I have always been the quiet type, so much so that I ended up in a special school on the UW campus for my first three years of schooling. I transferred to Sanislo Elementary School in 1974, “open concept” but otherwise in the regular Seattle Schools system. My parents, my brother and I moved to Arlington, WA in 1978 and graduated from Arlington High School in 1984. I played trumpet in the marching band, was on the Hi-Q quiz team, and (for the most part) kept to myself.

I went to Skagit Valley College from 1984 to 1986, getting an AA in communications and spinning records on KSVR radio. I remember the commute from my parents house to Mount Vernon in an AMC Pacer (a darker shade of blue, without flame decals). One day my car spun off the road while going home. No damage or injuries, but it did scare the poop out of me that day.

I spent 1986 to 1988 getting a BA in communications from The Evergreen State College in Olympia, perhaps being one of the few people on campus not to “experiment” in “illegal” substances. I had two more years of playing radio, this time on KAOS early Sunday morning from 4 to 7 AM. Obvious I had to quiet down the music during the last 2 hours of the program. I remember seeing Screaming Trees at a Halloween show junior year, and consuming mass amounts of coffee and Top Ramen. I did manage to graduate, which still surprises the heck out of me.

From 1988 to the end of the decade, I worked mini-mart jobs and stayed at my parents place. I applied for a job with the Social Security Administration in Auburn at my mom’s urging. When I found out I got the job in December of 1989, I was surprised how fast the conversation was suddenly about me getting my own apartment 🙂 There is a lot to write about the next decade and a half, which I will include in my next post. As I said, content is important…

Posted by: commapen | October 20, 2008

How I met the love of my life

To start this blog off, here is how I met the love of my life.  This, above anything else, has put me on the journey that I am now on.

My love story has more than a bit of luck involved. In June of 2004, I saw an entry box for a sweepstakes that Uwajimaya, a big Asian grocery store in downtown Seattle, was holding. They were offering 2 round trip tickets to Manila as a prize. I had taken some Tagalog classes literally for the heck of it, so I filled out one entry blank (the maximum allowed) and dropped it in. Little did I know that in early July of 2004, I would have my entry blank drawn as the winning entry. Since the prize was just the plane tickets to Manila, it was up to me to plan the trip.

My brother Eric and I went to Manila, Cebu, the island of Bohol, and the island of Siquijor, which was the last addition to the trip. I decided to add it because it was on the same Oceanjet route that I would be taking from Cebu to Bohol. Also, Eric thought that the stories of witches and other paranormal activity sounded cool. We spent 3 nights at the Coral Cay Resort, on the west side of the island. I had also downloaded the Chikka chat program and started talking with some Filipinas, with the idea of possibly meeting someone while I was there (Eric was already engaged). A few days after I added Siquijor, I got an unsolicited Chikka message from Meshel Guevarra, who is a nursing student from Dumaguete City, in Negros. I saw that Dumaguete was only a short boat ride away from Siquijor, so I offered to visit her for the day.

It turned out she was already engaged, but she offered to bring 4 single friends with her on that day. I left for Dumaguete on the morning of March 2nd, 2005. Eric gave me the tip of not focusing my thoughts on myself, and instead focusing my thoughts on the needs of the person that I was speaking with. I took the Delta Fast Ferry to Dumaguete and met Meshel, her sister Daisy, and friends Ruth, Germa and Myrna. We went to a Chinese restaurant and visited a park with some waterfalls and other mountain scenery. After that, we hung out at the waterfront, had a snack, and waited for the boat to take me back to Siquijor. I got some peanuts as a going away gift. No big romances developed on that day, but it was a nice visit.

When we got to the dock, I found out that the Delta Fast Ferry had canceled their evening run. I was worried for a bit since I needed to go to back to Cebu the next morning, and back to Manila the day after that, and back home to Seattle the day after that. Shortly afterwards, I met an older gentleman with a shopping bag. He told me about another boat that was leaving for Larena in about an hour. He saved by butt (grin). When I got on the boat, he mentioned that he saw that I was meeting some ladies, and he said that I should hear about his daughter, Dassy Teves Daniel, who was 24 years old and a medical technologist at Nodado General hospital in Norzagary, Bulacan province. I still had my notebook with me, so I wrote that information down and thanked him. When I got off the boat, Mr Daniel and Stephen Yaman, his son in law, saved me from being overcharged by a taxi that was going to take me back to the Coral Cay Resort. We talked some more, and I thanked them when I finally arrived at the Coral Cay.

After arriving back home in Auburn, I sent a few Chikka messages and an e-mail to the Yamans, letting them know that I was trying to find Dassy. Finally, on March 15th, I reached Dassy on her mobile phone, and he sent me a response. About a month later, we realized that we were quite simply meant for each other. I love her smile, her kind, gentle disposition, her positivity, her dreams for the future, everything. We have similar kind, gentle personalities. Every day, we talk with each other using Chikka, phone, or e-mail. I soon planned another trip, and on February 21st, 2006, I arrived in Manila, finally meeting Dassy, the love of my life, for the first time. The next day, we flew to Dumaguete and took the Delta Fast Ferry back to Siquijor, to spend 12 days at the Coral Cay Resort. I proposed to her on February 22nd, 2006, and she accepted. In Siquijor we also met her parents (including Mr Daniel again). We also met Stephen Yaman, his wife (Dassy’s older sister) and their 2 kids when we got back to Manila. I returned home March 8th, 2006.

The process of bringing Dassy to the USA began soon afterwards. She arrived in the USA on May 21, 2007, and we were married on July 7th. There is so much more to tell about our relationship, the life experiences I had before I found out about her, and our experiences since. This blog is an exploration process. I hope you can join me.

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